(12-31-2017, 05:18 PM)rpmaluki Wrote: It's obvious Adalind's life would look different if Nick never reciprocated her feelings....I don’t see Adalind falling in love with Renard because Nick didn’t love her. Hopefully she’s learned Renard’s commitment isn’t influenced by love, or lack of, but by need. However, if Renard/Adalind entered an arrangement similar to Nick/Adalind, I could see Adalind trusting and loving Renard over time as Nick did with her.
If Adalind didn’t develop feelings for Nick, I’d hope she had the same reaction to the Renard/BC proposal. Go because it gets her back with Diana but refuse to go along with their endeavor. I’d still want her to have the same objective to keep her children out of chaotic and dangerous situations, and joining their cause would have been the same as raising the children with the Royals - no freedom to do anything or go anywhere without approval.
I get what you’re saying rpmaluki, and agree that Adalind rebuffing Renard wasn’t because Nick loved her and wanted her back at the loft. However, my issue is as it’s always been - Adalind needing to have confidence in Nick’s feeling for her rather than having confidence in herself as a woman and mother, and as an individual. Adalind told Nick she loved him and never did anything to contradict that. That should have been enough for her to back off and redirect her focus to setting up a life for her and Kelly instead of continuing to convince Nick to love and trust her. Nick’s reluctance to trust and/or love Adalind is his problem to work through. And should he work through those issues too late to matter, that’s also his problem.
The reality is that Adalind was still in the same boat she was in at the end of S4 - nowhere to go and no resources other than depending on someone to provide for her and the children. I’m aware that Adalind’s hectic circumstances after Diana’s birth afforded little time for work and building a nest egg, but while the reason is valid it doesn’t improve her situation. What would Adalind have done if Nick concluded he’d never love her as more than his son’s mother? Return to their pre-sex, pre-love confession living rearrangement? Or heaven forbid, if he’d realized he still loved Juliette and wanted her back? Everything worked out for Adalind and the children because Nick eventually concluded he loved Adalind, not because Adalind created a situation that allowed their lives to move forward regardless of his decision.
I agree with the murkiness of redemption, TV or real life. Redemption doesn’t require a big event recounting every transgression and amends. Recognize the need for change and take the necessay steps to make it happen. Everything else usually works itself out along the way.
(12-31-2017, 05:28 PM)izzy Wrote:Thank you, izzy. And glad to see you on the forum.(12-31-2017, 04:17 PM)Robyn Wrote: ...I think the better test for Adalind being a better person for her sake and the sake of her children would be for her to refuse Renard and BC despite knowing that Nick wouldn’t love her or want a relationship with her. The entire time she was at the BC house, Adalind kept holding on to the hope that she would get back to Nick. Would she have continued to reject Renard’s proposed arrangement had she known having a relationship with Nick wasn’t an option? Because I do question whether Adalind was motivated to actually be a better person or motivated to be the person she believed Nick would love.Wow, what a post. I think you clearly articulated what I had been in the back of my mind about Adalind for sometime. What a great post Robyn.
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