(09-13-2017, 01:55 PM)Devegs Wrote:(09-13-2017, 09:44 AM)New Guy Wrote: ...Children have the right to be raised by a mother and a father, Pope Francis said, emphasizing that “the family is the foundation of co-existence and a remedy against social fragmentation.”
I agree that this is the ideal situation. However, some people are not fortunate to have this IRL.
Someone I know was told by her husband a number of years into their marriage after they had their kids, 'It was a mistake to marry you, you can stay since you are their mother and it is your duty to raise your children but realize that I want nothing from you and will do whatever I need to do to be happy. Being with you makes me unhappy.' Unfortunately for her, his job means that they move from county to country every couple of years so she doesn't work since the family moves around with him. Her family is not allowed in the house. He comes home late most nights (forget about weekends) and takes separate vacations with girlfriend(s). His children have met some sadly. He told her she can leave anytime she wants when they had to last big blowout a few years ago. He refused counseling and told his family (and hers) that he was done a long time ago but is just providing a home for his kids.The kids are caught up in all this. I don't feel this is healthier for them or society. I am lucky and very thankful that my story is different. I always pray for her that the situation takes a turn for the better sooner than later since she made the choice to stay. I would have supported the choice to leave as well if that was what she chose to do.
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Hi Devegs,
I feel sorry for your friend. Her "husband" sounds like a loser. He is a failure as husband and father.
My family also has very sad stories. I do not dwell on the past, but IMO the marital vows are sacred and breaking those vows shows lack of strength, character and conviction.
Quote:In the United States, Catholic wedding vows may also take the following form: I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded (husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.Shalom,
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