02-05-2017, 02:10 PM
(02-05-2017, 12:38 PM)FaceInTheCrowd Wrote: Sean and Adalind slept in the woods. Nick and Adalind fought in the woods.Okay, that’s the way I remember it.
Quote:According to Sasha Roiz, Sean doesn't fall in love, he falls in lust. Sure, he'd "do" Adalind, but as far as an actual relationship goes, it'd be based on mutual self interest at best, or if necessary, just on his own self interest. So he might like to be "with" Adalind sexually, but mostly he'd like to "have" Adalind.True, but I need to believe that anyone can change. I don’t necessarily see Renard deeply loving Adalind, but I think if he shifted priorities he could love and respect her as a partner and mother. And actually, that’s what she has with Nick now. He may enjoy having sex with Adalind, but he doesn’t love her passionately, he loves her as his son’s mother. I’m not yet convinced he respects her.
Quote:When Nick "agreed" to Sean's demand that he raise his daughter, what he was doing was agreeing not to fight it, and then he pointed out to Adalind that they didn't really have much choice except for her to share Diana with Sean if they wanted a chance for peace with him. Which is pretty much what any man has to do when the woman in his life has a rocky relationship and a child with an ex.Wording is everything. Nick could have assured his neutrality while reminding Renard that anything concerning Diana had to be discussed with Adalind.
Quote:Past experience has taught Nick not to try to force Adalind to do anything where Diana is concerned (not sure Sean has learned this lesson yet). And when he demanded that Adalind come with him, it was because she had told him multiple times that that was what she wanted. Does anybody really think Nick would try to keep Adalind with him if she didn't want to be? Sean did that, but when Nick decided to sell the house and Adalind asked if she and Kelly were going with him, what was his answer? "If you'd like." The basis of Nickalind, and the reason it's been as uncertain as it is for so long, is that it's two people trying to figure out what they both want, as opposed to Sean and Adalind, in which Sean has always either given Adalind take-it-or-leave-it options or just forced her to do his bidding.Again, wording is everything. It’s not like Renard wasn’t aware that Adalind wanted to return to Nick. It would have been enough for Nick to demand that Renard not interfere with Adalind leaving. Nick told Adalind that his agreement with Renard included Diana staying with him. When Adalind challenged that she wasn’t giving up her daughter, Nick rephrased it to her sharing Diana with Renard.
Wording and delivery is the key to good communication.
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