(04-23-2017, 12:17 AM)Juliette Wrote:(04-22-2017, 11:00 PM)Tara Wrote: Is Adalind still making sole decisions? Or does she ask first when she decides something? The Adalind, we have seen is miles away from being herself.
Oh and before I forget - why do Nick and Adalind love each other?
Tara, this is a very good question : ) Perhaps the Nadalind shipper are willing to answer the question. Without baby Kelly is involvement into that subject.
Adalind still makes her own decisions. She decided to go back to work. When Juliette asked for the spell books, that was Adalind's call. And when the Black Claw stuff occurred, she thought she could protect everyone by going with Renard. (Even a wrong decision is still a decision.) As a couple, I do believe that Adalind sees Nick as the head of the household. It probably feels safe for her, given the struggles she's been beset by until Kelly. If she finds contentment in that, why should it matter to anyone else. But it doesn't make her weak, and it doesn't make them anything less than partners. He's also the head of team Grimm, so most everyone looks to him in that manner. And so much of Nick and Adalind's lives together have been under a cloud of past and present pressures, up to this point. They've spent a year and a half walking on the egg shells of trust and baggage and learning to reconcile what they want from each other with where they've been. Nick and Adalind are much alike in the fact that they internalize emotion. It's like pulling teeth to get them to open up about the deeper stuff. I guarantee that Adalind had been wondering how Nick really felt about her. It wouldn't have gone unnoticed that Nick hadn't said "I Love You", yet. But asking that question would be hard for her. And Nick's feelings had been there for some time, without him expressing them. We hear it from Eve, long before he opens up. The truth is, we've really only seen phase one of their relationship. When they're standing in Monroe and Rosalee's living room at the end, the joy in their demeanor is palpable. Nick has never been this heartfelt in the entire run of the show, when it wasn't grief. They don't need to say they adore each other in that moment, because it's all over their faces. The flood gates have opened for both of them and the clouds have departed. From here on out, they need each other. In order to heal. In order to raise their family. In order to build something as partners. After twenty years time, we know they're fighting side by side. Adalind's influence is all over the trailer. For both of them, family is everything, so helping to build that legacy would have become important to her to. Because it's not just Nick's anymore. Following his lead doesn't mean Nick doesn't respect Adalind or look to her for guidance and support. And it doesn't mean Adalind has become some shrinking violet. That doesn't apply to the woman who was ready and willing to leap through that portal in order to save Eve.
As to why they love each other, that's certainly complicated. Adalind has spent her whole life surrounded by, and bound to men like Renard and The Royals. Her view of fathers was jaundiced by her own childhood disappointment. She saw the powerful men her mother associated with, and reaching adulthood, mirrored her behavior. Seeking approval from users, who saw her as nothing more then a sexual object and tool for their own empowerment. The Knight in Shining Armor didn't exist. This is what men were, because that's all she had seen. Meisner was the first guy to make her feel like that may not be entirely true. But their time together was fleeting. When she found herself with Nick, safe and protected, the impact on her psyche was swift. He wasn't expecting anything from her. He treated her with respect and kindness. Despite her preconceptions about what a Grimm was, Nick was winning her over. Adalind had never been this close to a man who actually cared about her or worried about her wellbeing. It's easy to fall for Prince Charming when you've been spent your whole life being the plaything of villains. Late in season five, Adalind told Renard that he wasn't her type. To her, that means Nick most definitely is. The good guy is what appeals to her now. That's not what she would have said at the beginning. Less because Renard is the sort she actually wanted, but more because he was the type she was supposed to want. Adalind has been allowed to break free of that and grow as a person. She's free to love and be loved. Adalind can love Nick because of the man that he is, and because they both have the same desire for family.
This process was less easy for Nick. Coming to terms with his feelings for Adalind was more challenging for Nick because of his lingering guilt over Juliette. Not to mention the baggage of past sins and preconceived notions. But in spite of all those things, he couldn't help but see that affection grow. The woman in front of him was nothing like he expected. She was warm and supportive. She was a tender and loving mother. More than anything, she was a real person to him now. Not just the archetypal villainess of the past. She had her likes and dislikes. Idiosyncrasies that defined her. A backstory he could relate to. All the small things that add up to a whole person. They spend their evenings in casual conversation. Discuss the mundane. Tend to Kelly as partners. Form an emotional shorthand between each other, inside a bubble that belongs to them alone. You can't help but get to know someone when your lives are so deeply intertwined. Beyond what you see on screen, consider how much time they would have spent together over months. That close proximity can result in one of two things. Either you start to drive each other up the wall, or you just click. Before Nick loved Adalind, he found out he actually liked her. They always got along. She was easy going. Their sense of humor was the same. He loved watching her with Kelly. It was comfortable. Suddenly he found that he enjoyed being there. Going home in the evening was a pleasure. He told Monroe that it all seemed so bizarrely normal. At that point, no one was talking about how they were feeling, but it was undeniably where they wanted to be. This space with Adalind felt like home. Despite those growing affections, tensions remained. A guarded place, still unsure of so many things. But when Adalind confides in Nick, that her powers have returned, I believe this marks the moment when Nick could clearly identify his love for her. She spoke of her fears to him and hoped that she could lean on him. He had to realize what a show of faith that would have been for her. It's a short span of time between that moment and the beginning of season six, and we know that his heart is all in at that point. When we leave them at series end, Nick is head over heels for her. The joy of having her back from the dead, washes away everything holding him back. He continues to hold onto her during that scene because he never wants to let her go again. He loves a woman who is steadfast, smart and brave. A woman who is unwavering in her devotion to her children and friends. A woman he's proud of, because of the past she's overcome. He loves her because he got the chance to really know her.